literally with my guy friends it’s “how long can i stay friends with you before you say something gross and misogynistic and i don’t feel safe around you anymore”
literally with my cishet friends it’s “how long can i stay friends with you before you say something tranphobic and homophobic and i don’t feel safe around you anymore”
person: he’s so hot
lesbian: i don’t think he’s that attractive
person: yeah but you’re not sexually attracted to men
lesbian: i’m not sexually attracted to shoes either but i can still tell when i think a pair looks good
When straight men are like “but if I share a locker room with a gay guy he might look at me!”
Okay leaving aside the fact that gay doesn’t mean attracted to you
And gay doesn’t mean “lacking in any sort of human decency or inability to prevent staring”
DOES THE THOUGHT OF SOMEONE LOOKING AT YOU IN A SEXUAL WAY, EVEN THOUGH YOU’RE NOT TRYING TO BE SEXUAL, MAKE YOU SLIGHTLY UNCOMFORTABLE MY STRAIGHT CIS MALE FRIEND?
Hey fellow JMU students! In case you didn’t already know, the University Health Center has a safer sex center. There are small brown paper bags for you to use to take whatever you need. Everything they have to offer is free, they even have pamphlets and how-to guides. No one will bother you or ask any questions (but they are glad to help if you ask them). :) Please use this awesome resource (or let your friends know it’s available)!
What constitutes “chilling” behavior? A teacher calls on the boys in class more than the girls. A CEO ignores what a woman says in a meeting but listens intently when a man makes the exact same point. A conference emcee mentions a female speaker’s appearance rather than (or in addition to) her accomplishments, but feels no need to comment on the appearance of male speakers. A guy at an atheist/skeptics meeting hits on a young woman in an elevator at 4 AM, ignoring the fact that she just spent the evening talking about how she hates being objectified at such gatherings.
All these sorts of things seem tiny and insignificant by themselves, but they add up, and this produces a cumulative “chilling” effect that makes women feel unwelcome, like they don’t belong. That’s a “chilly climate.” The effect is subtle; sometimes we’re not even consciously aware of it. We just have that nagging feeling of being “less than,” unable to put our finger on why we feel that way.
http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/cocktail-party-physics/2011/07/20/is-it-cold-in-here/ (via amelie-anomaly)